History Of Al-Anon
A family of support groups for people that have been affected by the problem of alcoholism within their family is identified as Al-Anon. The goal of theses groups is to be advantageous and therapeutic.
Al- Anon is a support organization for the friends and family members of problem drinkers, founded in 1951. Lois Wilson, well-known simply as Lois W, whose husband launched Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), laid the foundation of Al-Anon organization 16 years after AA was established. Dealing with the difficulties of providing support to a recovering alcoholic during her life, she decided to create an organization for people similar to her. Financial contributions are done by the members of the group itself which keep it running. Meetings are available to assist family members and friends of alcoholics adjust and better serve their loved ones, even if their loved ones have not recovered.
To assist members by having them understand they aren't alone in their struggle, is the principal target of Al-Anon.
The Effects On A Family Due To Alcoholism
Al-Anon recognizes that alcoholism affects everyone in the family not just the addicted member. Important to the alcoholic's recovery is the friend and family support system.
Some family members blame themselves for their loved one's drinking or may not realise why recovery is their loved one's primary concern. Support meetings can help deal about these issues in the best way while also making members understand that alcoholism should be treated as a family illness.
Alateen- Al-Anon For Teenagers
Teens are also affected by alcoholism and that is why Alateen was formed within Al-Anon to help them.
The meetings held by Alateen help youngsters to meet with individuals within their age group in order to make their experiences more beneficial and interrelated.
Al-Anon Group Advantages
Members benefit from Al-Anon because they are introduced to many people and families who suffer from alcoholism. People are different, although, Al-Anon members have all had similar experiences with their struggles. Being with people who understand your struggles and whom you can talk to is a big plus. There are Al-Anon meetings available all across our country. Give us a call on 0800 246 1509 to assist you find one close by you.
What Happens During The Meetings
The meetings held by Al-Anon are open to any individual who could be affected by the alcoholism of another individual. Contact an Al-Anon group near you if you are concerned about someone who is drinking more than they should or who is making your life stressful because of their drinking.
Since they are sure what will happen, some people don't feel free to go to the first meeting. The following are some of the key things to know when you are coming for the meetings:
- Al-Anon is a group that is unidentified
- Everyone in that room is affected one way or another by the alcoholism of a friend or family member
- No one is subject to talk about or discuss their issue, but it is encouraged
- There Are Several Kinds Of Meetings
- Some of them may be more effective for you than other ones.
- Al-Anon is not based on any religion
- The meetings are concentrating on the 12-step program which has been designed by Al-Anon
Al -Anon meetings permit attendees to "take what they like and leave the rest", being conducted under a mantra. In this way, instead of telling attendees what they should do, meetings target on exchanging experiences and difficulties.
Al-Anon And The Twelve Steps
Usually, meetings start with someone reading from the 12 step program. The Alcoholics Anonymous started the 12 step recovery program that is being used in the Al-Anon meetings. Similarly to AA, Al-Anon members rely on a facilitator who guides them through the steps and who is always ready to support when the going gets tough. These stages are:
- We admitted we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable.
- The members learn how to accept alcohol addiction as an illness, which they cannot control if somebody else suffers from it.
- Accepted that a Power greater than ourselves could bring back our mental health.
- Trying to change a person that has been affected by alcoholism can be a huge task and lead to breakdown.
- After they admit they are powerless, they learn how to accept that they can be helped to regain their sanity.
- Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
- Learning to let go is a primary step in the program and acceptance.
- Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
- Self-discovery is an essential component of the steps, and this is the start of that.
- The members make a list of things they did or said to themselves and their loved ones that are painful or harmful.
- Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to others human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
- Then follows going through the list one item at a time and dealing with each.
- Got fully ready to have God eliminate all the flaws of character.
- This step allows the member to off-load his recovery to someone greater and bigger than themselves to handle.
- Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
- When they reach This point, the member can realize the part they played by judging and trying to control their loved ones which could have driven them into more drinking.
- Made a list of all persons we had harmed and be willing to make amends with them.
- Mostly, doing changes begins with yourself.
- Lots of people tend to blame themselves for addiction of their significant others.
- They must be willing and prepared to forgive themselves and to make amends.
- Made amends to such people directly where feasible, except for the cases when doing so is likely to hurt them or others.
- The next step is to take action, after you agree to make changes.
- Went on making personal inventory and each time we were wrong, we admitted it at once.
- It takes some period before you can complete the stages.
- Members are ready with an inventory, yet making an error is common.
- Step 10 makes this clear that the process takes long.
- Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
- This is taking personal spiritual responsibility and surrender so as to start healing.
- Having experienced a spiritual awakening thanks to these steps, we tried to spread the word to other people, and to always practice these principles.
- The last step is a realization that the journey of the member is not over.
- Encouragement is provided to members to support other members with their education.
Recognising The Higher Power
Members of Al-Anon believe there is a "higher power' greater than themselves even though the group is not affiliated with any religion. Nevertheless, the term " higher power" is open to imply as one's own individual beliefs. Al-Anon is open to members of all religions and beliefs and accepts them with a commitment that no one will be forced to alter his or her belief.